Why Me? I Didnt Want This Divorce

Divorce is literally Death. It is. It is the death of a marriage. It may sound harsh, but it's true. When you are served with divorce papers, when you find out he cheated, when he says he doesn't love you anymore, it all starts

here. The dying begins. But it's okay, because on the other side of pain is joy, but to get to the joy you must go through a little pain. Well, okay, a lot. To really cleanse yourself of the pain you have to go through the grief, just

like when a loved one dies, and there are stages of grief. The good news is that everyone goes through these stages at a different rate. You could skip right along through one stage and then linger in the next. So here they

are.

STAGE 1: DENIAL This is where you start. "This can't be happening to me." "I thought I did everything right. Sure things weren't perfect, but what marriage is?" Sound familiar. Everyone goes through this stage. You may even

have had an inkling that your partner wasn't happy, but none the less, it still hits you like a freight train! They want out, and there is nothing you can do about it! So you deny the truth. You deny that it's real.

STAGE 2: ANGER There still isn't any acceptance. This might be happening to me, but I still don't think it's fair! I don't deserve this! You are furious! How could he? How could she? He said he would love you forever! But she

doesn't love you any more! How could God let this happen? You want to get even. You want to hurt him back.
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STAGE 3: BARGAINING You are willing to settle for something that you would never settle for before. The anger fades and the bargaining begins. "Please just stay another night." "Let's try one more time." "We can get

through this." But there isn't any getting through it this time.

STAGE 4: DEPRESSION The bargaining didn't work. She might not be staying and you really don't even want her to at this point, but you still don't really know what it is you do want. It's over and so is the life I thought I had.

Why even get up in the morning? The sadness feels overwhelming, but be strong. There is always hope.

STAGE 5: ACCEPTANCE Yes! You are here! The sun is still rising every morning! Your kids are okay. You are okay. You can look at yourself and say: "He left. He doesn't want me, and I AM OKAY!" It still hurts. It still makes

you mad, but you will make it. We're coming to the end of the pain. Here comes the joy!

These stages are briefly exemplified, but they give you a good overall glimpse at what you may be going through. Your divorce, the death of your marriage, isn't pretty but you will survive. Getting to acceptance is the goal and

you will make it! Your marriage is done. You thought you wouldn't survive it. You are surviving. You are thriving. The marriage between you might be dead, but you are not. You are living.